Kintsugi, as the practice is known, gives new life to damaged or aging ceramic objects by celebrating their frailty and history. One can consider how we might live a kintsugi life, finding value in the cracks, missing pieces and chips – whether it’s the scars showing how we have lived, finding new purpose through aging and loss, see the beauty of ‘imperfection’ and love ourselves, family and friends despite flaws.
We all have cracks and chips, and some of us have missing pieces. All of us also make choices as to how we live with our cracks, chips and missing pieces. We can start by recognizing that life is difficult. We can complain, whine, and even lash out at others, feeling justified in doing so; because we think life is supposed to be easier than it is, simpler than it is, a lot less messier than it is, more pleasurable and fun than it is. We act as if our hardships and difficulties are unique and unprecedented and thus our complaints and grumpiness—are entirely justified and appropriate. But as Viktor E. Frankl stated, “Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.”
The more we live expecting life to be easier than it is, the more we will miss potential moments of real peace and perspective and grace. If we realize and accept that life is difficult—it can free our minds up for more moments of appreciation and wonder and gratitude. We can find new purpose in our life. We can see the beauty in our imperfections, and find love for ourselves and others despite our flaws; despite their flaws. What a wonderful aspiration this could be for 2018. For our life.
Wishing you peace and wellbeing as you discover your imperfections and repair them with compassion and loving-kindness.
PS: Remember to hold the ones you love just a little closer and tighter this week (without expectations)